Just like you can't force someone to love you, you can't force yourself into a relationship, that's not love, its more of a duty. Over the years I have pushed myself to spend time with God. That's good if when you are striving to spend time with God is out of love, not out of duty.
For years, I have done devotions and good books to help my walk with God. But that wasn't what I needed. Please do not mistake me that devotions and good books aren't good, but they shouldn't take the place of the Bible or spending time one on one with God. It is what you value that you will deem most important. For me it is because I love God, that I value Him. I don't want a forced love or a forced relationship. Guess what? Neither does God.
Relationships are crucial to our lives. Don't hem yourself with a bunch of rules or do what everyone is doing because it works for them, trust me you'll end up with nothing but a frustrated heart. I know, I have been there. Your relationship with anyone whether its a co-worker or something deeper can't be forged upon rules or based anybody else's standards, it'll collapsed when the lightening strikes hard and long. Great relationships are built on God, who is filled with love and grace. Sometimes you have to let go. Sometimes you have to hang on for dear life. Sometimes...loving someone or even yourself isn't easy. Relationships, however hard you try, are not based on just you. It takes two to have a relationship.
It is what you value in a relationship that will be deemed most important.
